Saturday, 13 February 2010

"Maulvi's are the mureed of their wives..."

By Hazrat Hakeemul Ummat, Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi rahmatullahi alayh
Translate from Tohfae Zowjayn (excellent book, must buy).

Those people who are religious have much gratitude for the many efforts of their wives. Maulana Muhammad Mazar rahmatullahi alayh was such that his wife had become quite elderly but Maulana shared such a bond with her that whenever she would become even a little sick, he would immediately take leave from Madressa (where he would teach) and he would do her khidmat (service) with his own hands.

Today, some people hate having elderly wives where in reality, they are the people that made them a bhudi (elderly) but Maulana Muhammad’s rahmatullahi alayh was such that he did not employ maids or butlers to do his wife’s looking after but rather he did it himself and take leave from Madressa in the process.

It is for this reason that some people say in jest that: “The scholars are the mureed of their wives!” but Jee ha! Yes, indeed! It is better for them to be their mureed then be their peer like you people! And that too, a bogus peer!

The reality is this that Maulvi’s are not the mureed of their wives but they have the fear of Allah Ta’ala set in their hearts with regards to fulfilling the rights of other people and the rights of their wives. Their eyes have passed over the Qur’an and Hadith and they have read the social conduct of Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa salam through the narrations of Hadith. They have seen how he showed such softness and compassion to his wives in order to put them at ease.

The reality is that whatever Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa salam presented to his wives through his beautiful behaviour can never be done by any Maulana today and if he did make an effort to portray this behaviour (tit for tat) then the people would jest him by calling him more than a mureed of his wife.

In the Hadith it comes that Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa salam would race with his wife Hazrat Aisha radiallahu anha. It is for this reason Maulvi’s do more for the sake of their wives because they have social conduct of Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa salam in their eyes. Then by doing things for the happiness of their wives, there is a big benefit in the world. The People of Allah are not the mureed of their wives, rather they understand their significance.


Anonymous said...

if a sister wants to get married to someone who she thinks of as a potential husband, but due to family circumstances, she will not get married until 2-3 years later, is it ok for her to ask Allah for this man to soon give her a proposal since she doesnt really want to mention that she wants to marry him to anybody? there is no forbidden relationship between them, he is just well-known and liked by her family. is it wrong to ask Allah to bring her and him specifically together in marriage? i apologise this is not related to the article much. jzk

Abu Huzayfa said...

Assalamu Alaykum,

No, there is nothing wrong in that. It is encouraged to ask Allah Ta'ala for a pious partner as is mentioned in the Qur'an, "O our Lord, give to us from our spouses and our children the coolness of our eyes."

So you should also make this dua, it is very powerful and beneficial. Also, if you are to make dua, then make dua for that which benefits you.

Perhaps if you spoke to your parents and expressed your desire, they may be persuaded into adhering towards your request.

Anonymous said...

I want to add something to the above, he may be pious but a person should be careful in what they ask for too. There was a sister who was in the same situation as you, she knew of someone who appeared to be very pious and prayed for marriage to him and she got it. Little did she know that inside he was the total opposite and didn't really practise what he preached. Your heart may want him but try and stick to the above prayer which specifically asks for a pious spouse and not a specific person, because whoever you get at the end of it will be the acceptance of that specific dua. If the person you are interested falls into that dua according to Allah then that is double for you. But just remmeber the line: be careful what you wish for.

Anonymous said...

Thank you.
Please can you give me the chapter and verse of the Qur'an where this dua is.
thank you for answering my questions.

Abu Huzayfa said...

Assalamu Alaykum,

the dua is in Surah Furqaan, 74th verse:

رَبَّنَا هَبۡ لَنَا مِنۡ أَزۡوَٲجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعۡيُنٍ۬ وَٱجۡعَلۡنَا لِلۡمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

rabbana hab lanaa min azwaajinaa wa dhuree-yaa-tinaa qurrata a'yun. wa ja'al-naa lil muttaqeena imaamaa

O our Lord, give to us from out spouses and our offspring the coolness of our eyes and make us leaders for those who are god fearing.

please remember all of us in your duas.


Salihah x said...

mashaAllah! this is so sweet.. i guess you have to be forunate to get married to a pious alim! may Allah grant us all pious partners.. brother is it okay for you to write some more poetry aswell? thankyou

Abu Huzayfa said...

Assalamu Alaykum,

Inshallah I will try when time permits.