People Come & Go

Allah Ta'ala says in the Qur'an,

"Surely We will test you with a bit of fear and hunger, and loss in wealth and lives and fruits, and give good tidings to the patient."

This verse speaks about a 'loss in lives'. Sometimes in our life, people come and go. At some part of our life they (friends) may play an instrumental role but in another walk of life there may not be space to accommodate them. However, the love and care for these people should always remain. A person should always continue to make Dua'a for that person who helped him in some way. Even if it was a small piece of advice that seemed to be useless at the time of need. Many people become friends but due to circumstances are not able to speak anymore. Though there is no bitterness between the two, it is just a difficulty to maintain contact with one another via letters, phone, email etc. Overtime, it just becomes mutally accepted that there is no urgent need to speak to one another. This does not mean that you totally forget them, they are most deserved of spending time with you in your Dua'as. The Ulama e Kiram used to say,

“If one of you do not wish to fulfil his brother’s needs by sharing his worries or by making Dua'a then do not ask, 'How are things?' because it is considered hypocrisy.”

This does not mean you stop asking people about their condition. This means that you should care for them in your Dua'a and remember them when you are unable to be in their company as often as you would like. Then when you do ask them about their condition, it will be sincere, heartfelt and not just 'lip-service'. This will be good for your heart and never ever forget to ask a person how they are as this shows the other person that you actually care for them.

May Allah Ta'ala give us the best ability to recognise those people who have helped us in our life. May He shower upon them countless blessings and easen for us the restraints of not being able to fulfill their rights regularly. May He make us from those people who loved one another in the world and thus receive the shade of His throne. Ameen.