Saturday, 19 May 2012
Reflections on 'Rinsing' Guys and Glamour Models
Bismillahir rahmanir raheem.
A few days ago, news reached me of a TV programme that was
broadcasted in relation to a few supermodels who have used their appearances
and sex appeal to draw some benefits and gifts from the opposite gender. At
first, I didn't pay that much attention to it but over the last few days, I
have noticed that it has sparked such uproar, that many people have written
about it. In fact, such was the uproar, that it sparked a Twitter storm causing
50,000 tweets. After reading through
some of these articles (which contained tweets and public comments), I viewed a
couple of short clips of the episode and it truly upset me and made a deep
impact upon my heart.
After reading much feedback and trying to grasp many of the new
concepts, there were three areas I recognised as being important to address; 1.
Women and their role models 2. Men and how lowly they can become 3. Hayaa (modesty)
In brief, let me just summarise the issue; the theme of this
documentary highlights the lives of various glamour models who are apparently
extremely successful but they do not have any such profession. As a result,
they use their beauty to entice rich (or reasonably rich) men who then in turn
give them money and buy them extremely expensive gifts. This is not to say that
the problem in its entirety lies with the women, men who welcome the idea of
spending thousands on women who do not even care for them deserve to be hit with
the harsh clap of reality; but more on that later.
My first area of worry was in relation to our own
respected and dear sisters in Islam. Despite many women (whom I applaud) condemning
the models in the documentary, I noticed
how some women were writing messages of support after watching these models
rake money in. Many went to the extent of saying that such action was justified
and quite beneficial. As a Muslim, let alone a Muslima, such actions are quite
simply far from our religion. How can it bring a person happiness, to hoard
wealth in a fashion which is against morality and free from any ethics? It does
not even need a Muslim to highlight that such behaviour is wrong, many non
Muslims are correctly condemning such doings on social networking websites.
Thus, it's necessary to disregard such glamour models and
looks for some role models for all that glitters is not gold. When you take
away the glitz and the thrill of what these women are doing and you lay their
purpose out, it is quite simply abhorrent.
How can it be acceptable, to not work for the money you gain but to take
it from the hand of a person who is vulnerable due to his desires?
Alhamdulillah, our deen has taught us from the very beginning to be people of
pioneering nature who are not reliant on the money of others. Such people who
exert their limbs in noble work, utilise their capacity in all fields and be
dignified in their search for wealth. This was taught to us by our beloved
Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasallam. In a narration related by Abu
Dawud, a man came to Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam and he had nothing in
his possession except a piece of cloth (half of which was to be worn and the other
half was to be used as a spread) and a bowl. Rasulullah salallahu alayhi
wasallam told him to bring both possessions to him; consequently, they were
brought and the Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasallam auctioned them off
for 2 dirhams (silver coins). He gave the man the two coins and told him to
spend one upon the sustenance of his family and the other coin should be used
to purchase an axe. In fact, the axe was brought to Muhammad salallahu alayhi
wasallam and he fixed the handle; he then commanded the man that he should go
and gather firewood (by utilising the axe) and should not return until 2 weeks
later. When the man returned, he had accumulated 10 silver coins. It was at
this juncture that the Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasallam said, “This
is better for you than the (act of) begging should come as a blemish on your
face on the Day of Judgment. Begging is right only for three people: one who is
in grinding poverty, one who is seriously in debt, or one who is responsible
for compensation and finds it difficult to pay. (i.e. extremely dire
circumstances)”.
Having understood this hadith, it is important to highlight
the work ethic that Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam would inculcate within
the Companions. Respect for a person is when that person acquires sustenance in
a respectable and dignified manner. What respect is there in a person who
hoards money by using their sexual prowess as a means of asking men for gifts?
A person may achieve their goal and gain quite a bit from lustful men but where
is the taste of prosperity in their wealth? It is free from any blessing, free
from any satisfaction, free from any dignity.
Thus it is important to urge our sisters to be such women,
who study hard throughout their youth and become women who are intellectually
astute, morally sound and highly modest. When such characteristics are found
within a woman, she is not in need of stooping to such lows.
The second advice is in relation to my dear Muslim
brothers; we have become too weak in relation to our desire for the
opposite gender. There are many who are all too willing to give time, wealth
and affection to women who are not even halal for them. Many Muslim men are
spending their money on women whom they have never met; their only source of
interaction with these glamour models etc has been through adult entertainment
sources. In an attempt to win the admiration of these women, many men are
emptying out their wallets in buying gifts which would be more rewarding for
them had they spent their wealth on their family members instead. Rasulullah
salallahu alayhi wasallam said, "When a Muslim spends on his family in
anticipation of a reward, it is sadaqa for him." (Al Adabul Mufrad)
I.e. when a man spends on his family members, he is rewarded immensely. Furthermore,
in this documentary, men were spending thousands on these women; Allahu Akbar!
There are people in this world who are in extreme need, they are literally
walking on the banks of destruction and they have no person to feed them. Yet,
we would rather give money to women who are quite simply ‘users’ (matlab
parast) as opposed to the millions who are dying of hunger.
Our priorities in life must be sorted out. On the Day of
Qiyamah, the feet of a person will not move until he has answered 5 questions;
two of which are: Where did you acquire your wealth? Where did you spend your
wealth? Every single person will have to answer for every single penny he
spent, what will be the state of that person who did not care for his zakah but
was enthusiastic upon spending his wealth in shameful places? What answer will
he give to Allah? Thus, it is important for us to build this fear within us.
Lastly, in relation to a man, we need to stop being
‘suckers’ for everything that tickles our fancy. We have to build up our
defences, it shouldn’t be the case that a pretty woman batters her eyelashes
and we feel the need to rescue the damsel in distress. There is a need to
become prudent in such matters and ignore that which is of no benefit. When a
person becomes desperate in regards to the other gender, he loses his respect
in the eyes of people.
Finally, I wanted to mention the topic of modesty.
Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam has said that Hayaa (modesty) is a branch
of faith. In another place he has said, “Every nation has a trait and the trait
of my nation is modesty” (Muwatta). He has also said, “Vulgarity does not exist
in something except that it makes it repulsive and modesty does not exist in
something except that it beautifies it.” In fact, even men are given the example of
Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam who was described as being more bashful
than a veiled virgin within her quarters.
Modesty is quite simply that thing which prevents a person
from doing anything hideous. He is constantly shy and is afraid what people
might think. Moreover, he is most shy of Allah Ta’ala. As a result, he shies
away; take the example of a pious person, when all of his friends are going to
a club, he rejects because his modesty stops him from entering such places.
Thus, the more we increase in our modesty, the greater we become in distinguishing
immoral activities from moral deeds. This is a characteristic which should be
in us all (men and women) but it seems extremely distant from such women who
are involved in ‘rinsing’ activities. The likes of Asmaa bint Abi Bakr
radiallahu anhumaa was such that one day she was carrying a huge weight of
harvest on her shoulders towards her house which was at a distance. The Prophet
Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasallam passed by with a group of men; the Prophet
Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasallam was her brother in law and offered to take
her home by sitting her on his horse but she refused the offer and said, “I am
shy that I travel amongst the men”. Such women are models, the great role models
to have ever walked the earth.
May Allah Ta’ala give us all the ability to recognise that
which is the Haqq as Haqq and then bless us with the ability to follow it. And may He give us the ability to recognise that
which is false as false and bless us with the ability to stay away from it. May He, out of His kindness, endow us with the
characteristics of our beloved Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasallam, and beautify
us with the characteristic of modesty. Ameen.
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Friday, 11 May 2012
Qur'an - The Book That Shook The World
The following is a rough transcript of the bayaan given at Noor ul Islam Masjid on 6th May 2012. The topic was, 'Qur'an - The book that shook the world'.
Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam has said in a hadith
which has been recorded by Imam Muslim, “Trials and tribulations will come upon
the heart like a straw mat, one straw after the other. Whichever heart accepts
these fitnahs into his heart, it will become tainted with a black dot. And
whichever heart rejects these fitn will have his heart marked with a shining,
white spot. Until the hearts become one of either two types; the one who
rejected these fitn will have his heart white, like shining marble, nothing
will be able to give this heart harm for as long as the heavens and the earth
remain. The state of the second heart is such, that it will become incredibly
black, coal like. It will be a dark, empty vessel which has no nur inside. It
does not recognise good and nor does it reject evil, it just follows its
desires.”
Having understood this, I put before you a second narration;
Abdullah ibn Abbas radiallahu anhu mentions that Jibreel alayhis salaam once
came to Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam informed him that many fitnahs
will appear. Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam said, “What will the way out
from it, O Jibreel?” He said, “The Book of Allah”.
Many of us today are
impacted by many troubles, trials and tribulations which surround us on a
regular basis. Some people may be living messed up lives, completely free from
the remembrance of Allah Ta’ala. And this may even be the case for those of you
who appear to be religious with a beard, juba, hijab, abaya etc. The reality
is, that when fitn is hitting us left, right and centre, it effects our hearts
tremendously. There are many, whose hearts have become tainted... blemished...
murdered by an abundance of sinning. The hearts have become, dark, full of
malice but such darkness will only remain if you let it remain there. When the
Qur’an was first revealed upon Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam, it did not
just shake the world but it shook the hearts of those who heard it. It was
such, that the very Qur’an, which we read today, about which Rasulullah salallahu
alayhi wasallam said, “"Certainly, there is always a thing in which people
take pride. And that which is glory and pride for my Ummat is the Holy
Qur'an."
This very same Qur’an has the ability to shake our hearts and
take the spots of darkness out and recuperate it and make it like a twinkling
star.
It is about this effect that Allah
Ta’ala mentions,
إِنَّمَا ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ ٱلَّذِينَ إِذَا ذُكِرَ ٱللَّهُ وَجِلَتۡ
قُلُوبُہُمۡ وَإِذَا تُلِيَتۡ عَلَيۡہِمۡ ءَايَـٰتُهُ ۥ زَادَتۡہُمۡ
إِيمَـٰنً۬ا وَعَلَىٰ رَبِّهِمۡ يَتَوَكَّلُونَ
“Certainly, the believers are those whose hearts
are filled with awe when (the name of) Allah is mentioned; and when His verses
are recited to them, it makes them more developed in faith; and in their Lord
they place their trust.”
ٱللَّهُ نَزَّلَ أَحۡسَنَ ٱلۡحَدِيثِ كِتَـٰبً۬ا مُّتَشَـٰبِهً۬ا
مَّثَانِىَ تَقۡشَعِرُّ مِنۡهُ جُلُودُ ٱلَّذِينَ يَخۡشَوۡنَ رَبَّہُمۡ ثُمَّ
تَلِينُ جُلُودُهُمۡ وَقُلُوبُهُمۡ إِلَىٰ ذِكۡرِ ٱللَّهِۚ ذَٲلِكَ هُدَى ٱللَّهِ
يَہۡدِى بِهِۦ مَن يَشَآءُۚ وَمَن يُضۡلِلِ ٱللَّهُ فَمَا لَهُ ۥ مِنۡ
هَادٍ
“Allah has sent down the best discourse, a book
containing subjects resembling each other, mentioned again and again, shivered
from which are the skins of those who have awe of their Lord. Then, their skins
and their hearts become soft enough to tend to the remembrance of Allah. This
is the Guidance of Allah with which He brings to the right path whomsoever He
wills. As for the one whom Allah lets go astray, for him there is no one to
guide.”
Once the
Qur’an has penetrated the heart, then a person is directed towards that which
is correct. Allah Ta’ala says,
إِنَّ هَـٰذَا ٱلۡقُرۡءَانَ يَہۡدِى لِلَّتِى هِىَ أَقۡوَمُ
“Indeed, this Qur’an guides towards that which is upright...”
My respected brothers and sisters, the
reality is that we could speak about the power, the majestic nature and the
virtues of the Qur’an for hours on end. Everybody sitting in this room
understands that the Qur’an is something which is good, venerated, respected
and loved. Everybody in this room understands that the Qur’an should not be
disrespected. The problem is, we all understand the amazing nature of the
Qur’an but we still don’t read it! That is the problem and for this we need
some remedies.
I began to think about how we could
bring ourselves to read the Qur’an? An I thought of perhaps six-seven points
which we could use to perhaps bring the Qur’an into our life:
1. Learn
the Qur’an properly with Tajweed. Do not delay or be shy – You must
try your utmost best to learn the Qur’an. The hadith states that it is either a
proof for you or against you. It will be a proof for you if you learnt it in
the correct manner and then recited it beautifully. If you don’t even bother to
learn tajweed, the Qur’an will curse you! The very same Qur’an that could be a
means for you to enter into Jannah will be a source of you going into the fire
of hell! Don’t be shy either, Aishah radiallahu anha says, “The best of women
are the women of the Ansaar for they do not let shyness top them from seeking
knowledge.” Be like the women of the Ansaar! Take lessons from them! How can
you be shy? Will you live the remainder of your life distant from the Qur’an?
2.
Maintain Wudhu – half the battle is done. Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam
said, “Only a believer looks after his wudhu.” When you have your wudhu, you
will have a better chance of reading the Qur’an. Otherwise, when you want to
read Qur’an, you’ll gets frustrated and put off by the fact that you have to
use cold, cold water. If you already have wudhu, it will be easier inshallah.
3. Fix
yourself an amount to read every day at a set time when you will not be busy.
And don’t overdo it! – Fix it in your mind that you will do pray
some amount of Qur’an everyday and establish it in your life. Find a time when
you are free and your thoughts are free; then utilise it in reading the Qur’an.
Maybe a page before you sleep! Those people who don’t read Qur’an at all, start
by reading half a page or a page and then build it up. Those who are more
proficient, try to read more but don’t overdo it! If you overdo it then you
will get bored. So do little but be efficient and then progress like this.
4. Try to learn the meanings of the Qur’an, go to some good tafseer classes – You don’t need to learn Arabic, if you do that is good! But try to go and listen to the tafseer of the scholars. You will only abide by the Qur’an when you realise what it is telling you. Learn the stories and lessons in the Qur’an, they will give you solutions to things that you see in your life. Find suitable scholars and listen to their tafseer, you can’t understand the Qur’an by simply looking at a translation. There are many reasons and stories behind many of the verses.
5. Learn some Surahs of the Qur’an or some parts, it will come in benefit for you when you are in a time of need – Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam said, “That person in whom there is no part of the Qur’an is like a house which is barren and desolate.” Try memorising some of the Surah of the Qur’an. They will help you in your day to day life. Surah Fatiha is a cure for every disease, a person who reads Surah Kahf has a light emanating from beneath his feet to his heavens, Surah Mulk saves one from the punishment of the grave! Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam said, “For every single thing there is a heart and the heart of the Qur’an is Surah Yasin. Whomsoever read it, it is as if he has read the Qur’an 10 times.” In fact, even the Sahabah radiallahu anhum would train their children to memorise parts of the Qur’an. Abdullah ibn Mas’ud radiallahu anhu was close to passing away and he was leaving many daughters behind. Uthman radiallahu anhu insisted on giving Abdullah ibn Mas’ud radiallahu anhu some money so that the daughters have some wealth to use after his passing as they were unmarried. Abdullah ibn Mas’ud radiallahu anhu said, “I have heard Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam saying, ‘Whomsoever reads Surah Waqi’ah every night, poverty will not afflict him’ and I have taught every single daughter of mine this Surah!” This shows us that we must memorise parts of the Qur’an and help our children memorise it also.
6. Live by
the Qur’an, act upon it, don’t just think ‘Oh I can read the Qur’an’ that’s
enough - Aishah radiallahu anha was asked about the characteristics of
Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam and she said, “His mannerisms were the Qur’an.”
i.e. whatever the Qur’an commanded, he adhered and whatever it forbade, he
stayed away from it.
7. Have a
proper niyya (intention), don’t try impressing people with Quran.
8. Keep
the Qur’an in your pocket on the train or on your iPhone – keep it
with you so that you can read it on the tube and bus on your way to work or
university. Make sure you have your wudhu if you touch the screen, this is the
fatwa given by my beloved teacher, Hazrat Maulana Abdur Rahim sahib (DB).
9. Listen
to it – If you can’t read it properly, then listen to it! This will
help you. All this filth that we listen and enjoy on a day to day basis
corrupts our mind and heart. So listen to the Qur’an, this will inshallah
cleanse your mind and give peace to your soul. You will also begin to pick up
recognise and memorise bits and pieces here and there.
10. Don’t
doubt – When the Qur’an says, “This is the book in which there is no
doubt” you should have full belief in this statement. It is not possible for
the Qur’an to have doubt, Allah Ta’ala has stated this from the beginning.
Thereafter, there is no scope for contradictions and false allegations which
some people like to propagate. Allah Ta’ala has said, “Indeed, We have sent
down this Remembrance (i.e. Qur’an) and We are its Protectors.” Once Allah Ta’ala
has said this, it is the end of all doubts. If you still have doubts placed in
your mind by mischievous people or by the way of your own conjecture, then go
to a proper scholar and ask him in regards to it. He will give you a proper
answer. Don’t look for it on the internet otherwise you will become confused
even more!
The Qur’an begins with Baa and
finishes with Seen – meaning BAS! So we shall end over here!
May Allah Ta’ala give me first the
ability to act upon what I have said and give me the ability to fulfil the
rights of the Qur’an. Thereafter, may Allah Ta’ala give you all the ability to
act upon what has been said and fulfil the rights of the Qur’an. Ameen, ya
Rabbal ‘Aalameen.
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Friday, 4 May 2012
Video: Marriage - The Way of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam
This is an excellent marriage on marriage given by the most dear and beloved, Hazrat Maulana Abdur Rahim Sahib (DB):
Tuesday, 1 May 2012
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