Sunday, 5 February 2012

Picture of the Month - February 2012

Praying in Congregation

Praying in congregation is wajib upon every Muslim man. Allah Ta'ala mentions in the Qur'an, "And bow your head with those who bow (in worship)"

Similarly, Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam has said, "It better to join another person and pray than to pray alone and it is more superior in the company of two men and the bigger the congregation the more liked it is by Allah." (Abu Dawud)

It has also been narrated in Bukhari & Muslim that congregational prayers are 27 ranks above an individual prayer in virtue.

May Allah Ta'ala give us the ability to pray our Salaah in congregation. Ameen.


Anonymous said...


what is the ruling for taking pictures? can we take pictures on our wedding day as a memory?

Abu Huzayfa said...

Assalamu Alaykum,

My dearest Sheikh Abdur Rahim sahib (DB) has answered this question by stating the following:

"We have to take photos for passports, driving licences, ID cards, Haj and Umrah visas, etc. We use notes with photos on them – these are necessary uses. On the other hand, we don’t take holiday snaps or wedding shots or birthday photos, because there is no necessity there. They are just taken for fun or for memories of the past, similar is the case with videos"

Wallahu a'lamu bis sawaab

Anonymous said...

sorry- i'm not anonymous number1 so i apologise to them for cutting into a conversation but can i ask- how can u explain to potential proposals that a meeting instead of a picture of the woman (before marriage) is better in our deen, when usually the culture (asian) of these grooms or family feel that for marriage purposes it is fine to give a photo- surely even if this is right, a meeting is far greater and what should be done if the sister has no photo to give should she go against what she feels to be unecessary and take a photo?

how can you effectively portray this point to strangers (quite literally) without making them feel "judged" or your side appearing "desperate"

in the case that some people may think it IS "necessary" to give a photo in these such instances what about if the sister genuinely doesn't feel it's necessary (as necessary usually means there's no other way and here- quite clearly the proposed groom can come and meet the sister to see how she looks with both families present),however it is unfortunate asian culture usually takes this meeting as a final yes!and so families are reluctant. how are we meant to combat this?

Abu Huzayfa said...

Assalamu Alaykum,


The question you have asked is a good one. The reality is that a person has to avoid thinking about what others may think or say. There may be situations which come across quite 'desperate' but the reality is that to view the potential spouse is from the advice given to us by Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam. Thus, we shouldn't think, 'I'm going to look so desperate if I suggest meeting up' but rather, one should be happy that the Sunnah is being implemented. There is no shame whatsoever in wanting to do this. In one hadith it comes:

حدثنا أحمد بن منيع حدثنا ابن أبي زائدة قال حدثني عاصم بن سليمان ( هو الأحول ) عن بكر بن عبد الله المزني عن المغيرة بن شعبة : أنه خطب امرأة فقال النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم انظر إليها فإنه أحرى أن يؤدم بينكما وفي الباب عن محمد بن مسلمة و جابر و أبي حميد و أبي هريرة

Mughirah ibn Shu'bah radiallahu anhu narrated, "I sought a woman in marriage. Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam asked me, "Have you seen her?" I said, "No." He salallahu alayhi wasallam then said, "Then look at her, because it is more proper that love should be cemented between you." (Tirmidhi)

Thereafter, the other family should be made aware of your intentions in a kind and humble manner. Explain that it is better to see each other and talk for a reasonable amount of time in order to see whether the potential couple are compatible with one another.

There are many such negatives when it comes to sending a photo. A person can make himself/herself look beautiful by taking the photo from a specific angle. It doesn't reflect the actual beauty. Similarly, a person can hide any obvious defect. Thirdly, after giving the picture, there isn't any guarantee that the picture will not get into the wrong hands. It is totally possible that the boy shows his friends and other male family members. That poor girl who wears the veil will have had her purpose compromised.

Thus, if a sister doesn't want to give a photo, there is no need for her to do so. Things shouldn't be over complicated. Usually, the other side are understanding in such matters but if they are extremely inflexible, then marrying into such a family may need to be pondered over further.

Finally, there is no need to agree straight away. One can simply say, "I will make istikhara and get back to you!"

I was sitting in the company of my dear Sheikh Abdur Rahim sahib when he turned to me smiling and said, "Allah Ta'ala has made such a beautiful way out for us through Istikhara. There are some instances in life where you do not want to do something but people are really enthusiastic about it. Thus, they will put you in a tight situation in which you can only say yes or no and face either pleasing them or hurting them. But Alhamdulillah, there is no need for such 'on your toes' situation. One can simply say, 'I need to make istikhara about this'. The whole ummat understands that istikhara is important and so they will all agree and become pacified."

So you should do the same in such a situation, just say, 'I need to do istikhara' and then perform it as it is a big decision.

Wallahu a'lamu bis sawab

Anonymous said...

Jazakillah Khayran brother for your response- Anonymous Number 1