اذا كانوا ثلاثة فلا يتناجى اثنان دون الثّالث
“When there are three people, two should not converse together at the exclusion of the third.” (Adabul Mufrad: Hadith #1166 pg 722)
“When there are three people, two should not converse together at the exclusion of the third.” (Adabul Mufrad: Hadith #1166 pg 722)
This is straight forward, two people should not exclude the third and speak because this will make him feel unwanted and lonely. Sometimes, two people sit together and begin a conversation in such a manner that the other feels that they are talking about him. The behaviour of a group of Muslims should be such that they make everybody feel wanted. In the modern day, this can also apply to the usage of mobile phones. For example, if two people are sitting and one of them gets a phone call, he should not have a half an hour discussion with the person on the phone and discard his friend in that period. Rather he should host the person whom he is with.
In the same manner, it is not permissible for a person who sees two people talking and then butts into their conversation. Once Abdullah ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) was speaking to a man privately when Sa’eed al Maqbari (may Allah have mercy upon him) entered upon them. Ibn Umar pushed him away and said, “When you see two men talk to each other, you should neither stand near them, nor should you sit there unless you have their permission to do so.
4 comments:
Salaam. I was just wondering if it is possible if you could write an article on productivity, and how a person can use their time wisely. Also I wanted to know would a person be punished if they left their islamic ilm, i.e aalima course, to concentrate on their School studies instead?
Lastly, I wanted to know the islamic perspective on happiness and sadness?
Sorry,if this is rather demanding. If you have the time to respond, I would much appreciate it. If not, it's ok. Jazak'allah.
Wassalamu Alaykum.
I have already written a brief article on productivity. You can find it here: http://jamaluliman.blogspot.com/2009/04/free-time.html however, if you are looking for something more in depth then inshallah we will do something.
My personal advice to you would be to keep your Aalima course going and manage your time better. To do both Aalima class and secular studies at the same time is not impossible and can be done provided that you manage you time well and work hard. I also fear that if you leave your Aalima class studies, you may not go back to it later due to the different things that may be happening in your life.
When Imam Owza'ee rahimahullah was young, he found some studies extremely tough and at first gave up. One day he was travelling and he saw a closed tap from which water was dripping. He decided that he would take Ilm in the same manner, even if it is drips and drops here and there. He eventually became one of the biggest Muhadiths the world has ever seen.
Also, when you are young, there is far less responsibility than when you are 23+ and as you continue growing, these pressures increase. Therefore, it will be best for you to continue your classes and do however much you can. Speak to your teachers and ask for their advice and duas when times are getting tough. Inshallah by keeping this ilm continuous, it will ease your life on the whole and will contribute to your akhirah immensely. Keep making dua. If you were to leave Aalima class, you would not be considered sinful as this is fardh kifaya. However, once again, I strongly urge you to work hard and keep at it. What a great blessing it is that in the akhirah, you will be known as a scholar by the people.
In relation to happiness and sadness; these are all feelings from the heart. It depends on a person what makes him happy and what makes him sad. If you are speaking from an Islamic point of view then perhaps what you mean is the state of Qabz and Bast – spiritual high and spiritual low. This fluctuates in accordance to the deeds of a person. When a person is punctual on all the things he/she is meant to do as a servant and is doing extra worship then a person feels very beautiful within themselves and their belief. However, when a person is committing sins on a regular basis or committing a major sin here and there, he/she falls into a spiritual state known as Qabz. This is when a person feels extremely sad in relation to his/her imaan and feels really ugly and unwanted. It truly is an ugly feeling and it happens to even the best of us. We all are suffering from some problem or another and sometimes, these problems get the better of us. However, sometimes, you have to take a step back to go forward. The question arises as to how a person should bring this happiness back and the answer is quite simply by worship.
Keep a firm ta’aluq and connection with your Qur’an especially, you should make it your friend that you can relate to and take with you everywhere. Before you sleep, read Surah Mulk and Alif Lam Mim Sajdah (very short surahs) and during the daytime read Surah Yasin. On Jummu’ah read Surah Kahf and set yourself a target of reading at least 10-15 pages of Qur’an every day. You will soon find that you won’t become extremely sad on self reflection. Perhaps this was the sadness and happiness you were referring to? It is quite a vast topic.
Wallahu a’lamu bis sawaab
Jazak'allah for the reply. I read the Article on productivity, and I guess it has put some persepctive on my Life.
About the Aalima course, I have already left it, around 6 months ago. I really want to go back, because i seem to feel this sadness in my heart. But I can't exactly go back because I would have missed a lot of chapters of the transalation of the Qur'aan. And plus, I found it really hard, because most of the books were in urdu, and I don't understand it properly. I have so many reasons not for returning, and i'm going to start college soon, so it's even going to be more pressure on me. I don't know what to do.
In relation to happiness and sadness, yes that was what i wanted to know. It's just that when I am in a state of sadness, I don't know what to do.
Speak to your teachers and ask them when you can rejoin next.
The reason to your sadness is most likely the detachment from the books you were studying. These books have a special link to the roohaniat and spirituality of a person. Their barakah help a person to give up sinning and lead a controlled lifestyle. They serve as a barrier and without them, it is easier to fall into sin. Also, when one is away from his teachers he feels incredible sadness. So remain in their company.
In regards to the toughness of your work then there is nothing to worry. During the early years of your study you will feel as if there is a great mental barrier in understanding the lesson but if you keep your heart sincere, then Allah Ta’ala will endow you with so much understanding during your later years. How much you know and how much you don’t know is not relevant but your heart being clean and your actions being correct are what matter. It is not about how much you can do it, it’s about how much Allah Ta’ala accepts.
During the early years, Urdu is tough to pick up but try your best to read small Urdu books and familiarise yourself with the language. If you are studying Qur’an Tarjuma, then use Mufti Taqi Usmani sahibs Aasan Qur’an Tarjuma. It is also incredibly helpful to sit with a dictionary and translate articles from books. You will find after a while, you don’t even need to use a dictionary. Also, listen to a lot of Urdu talks. Go to www.tafseer-raheemi.com and listen to Hazrat’s Urdu talks.
The main thing is not to give up and to continually ask Allah Ta’ala for help. He is the One who gives the body its ability to function properly. Ask Him for barkat in your work and time and inshallah you will see a difference in your life and mood. The main thing is to keep going as long as you can, however much you can.
Wallahu a’lamu bis sawaab
Wassalam
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